Doing Less is the Key to Relationship Success
When doing less is your KEY to relationship success…
Wait, Dr Liz! Do less?
Kinda crazy, right?
…and it works.
Showing up doing less in your marriage or relationship actually gives you more.
Success Key #1:
When you release the end result, you stay present.
When you’re attached to the outcome, you focus on what they are…and more importantly what they aren’t doing!
That’s the KEY shift here.
Focusing on our partner or spouse’s progress or lack of progress…keeps ourselves, our partner…marriage or relationship in a constant loop of surveillance, assessment, disappointment and frustration.
Consistently stirring our mental critique of why and when will they get started, complete the task…
Perhaps you’ve found yourself in this loop of doing more…
- More lists
- More ‘meetings’ to go over the lists
- More arguments
- More doing it yourself
Finally, throwing in the towel, losing confidence in your relationship…exhausted and overwhelmed because ‘nothing you do seems to make a difference’.
This time, just do less…
Shift from doing more, become less ‘helpful’.
There’s no need for reminding or nudging…
Eliminate stepping in and taking their ‘stuff’ on.
Released from the outcome, you’ll stay focused where you need to be and they need you to be.
…is a huge satisfaction booster and a relationship saving tip.
November 22, 2023
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